Sometimes Priorities Must Change
One piece of advice I have given over the years to younger
people facing significant changes (leaving home, marriage, having children,
buying a home) is this:
'Your priorities will be changed forever. Nothing, I, or anyone else can tell you will
prepare you for the changing of your priorities. There is no way to compare or explain it—you
simply must accept, adapt, and make it your own. But, most of all, adapt without resistance.'
I certainly cannot say I always followed my advice through
the years, especially when I was younger.
Fortunately, I had a role model who helped me see that there are no
stumbling blocks---only stepping stones.
My dad got up every morning of his life and said, "It's a good day;
the sun is shining." (Even when it was pouring down rain---somewhere the
sun was shining.)
Thankfully, through the multiple marriages, raising children
on my own, abuse and starting over---again and again, and again. Even as recently as seven years ago, I had
those words to keep me going.
Why do people resist change?
I believe, mostly, because of fear of the unknown, and some people
cannot accept a change or new priorities.
My best example is the way my parents individually changed
and adapted, or in the case of my mother, did not.
From major changes like diet and stopping smoking to
removing a rug to prevent falls or simply to keep moving were all huge
impossibilities for my mother.
My dad LOVED change—his famous advice to me was, "Miss
Patricia, never get into a rut, learn new things, new ways of living, and make
it your best."
My mother, on the other hand, would never sit anywhere but
one spot, not eat anything but a few foods, would not quit smoking, follow
doctor's orders or even take medication for high blood pressure or
diabetes! The only way she would change
is when she was in the full throes of dementia, and even then, she tried to
punch nurses regularly when they tried to give her insulin shots in the nursing
home.
My dad was happy and motivated to the very end. My mother was miserable and impossible til the
very end.
We have all had to adapt and evolve throughout time----
throughout history. If our ancient
ancestors had not modified and changed priorities, most of us would not even be
here.
New priorities are part of life, part of growth, and part of
accepting we are all in this together, and yet, none of us have any
control.
Having hope and faith through any adversity and change is the only way to ensure we are moving
forward. Today our lives are changed forever, and it's our choice how we
accept and adapt to our new priorities,
for our survival and growth.
Priorities
Life circles around us.
Forcing us to kneel and pause.
Our priorities change,
daily, even by the
hour.
Refusing to move forward
prevents growth.
Sometimes, what is the hardest
to accept,
the toughest to cope with
brings us the most insight,
Into the realm of love.
It's always a choice.
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