Remembering More Through Love
Tomorrow is February 19, and my daddy, Carus Esmond Wade, would
have been 107. He gave me so much more
than being alive! He gave me parts of
myself; I am only now discovering. It is
a celebration for me because I wouldn’t be who I am without him.
He was a constant learner, a lover of history, and loved to
help people. I cannot remember a time
when he wasn’t reading a book, watching a documentary, or climbing on his trusty
lawnmower to mow a neighbor’s yard. But,
his first love was to work on engines, fix cars, refurbish old cars (for his
boss), and help single moms have reliable transportation.
Several months after he passed, we got a card from a woman
who had lived in Broken Arrow many years before. She had been a single mom, and her car had
broken down. Someone recommended my
daddy to help her. (She said she had
gotten the recommendation from the Broken Wheel Parts Store).
He fixed her car so she could get to work. He paid for the parts and charged her no
labor.
She said in her card that he saved her life and kept food on
the table for her children. She called
him an angel in her card. I sobbed
reading that card because I knew what a soft spot he had for single moms trying
to raise their children. His passion was
to help them.
Thank you, daddy! I am
living my passion, too! I can hear you
saying, “I’m proud of you, Miss Patricia.”
Here is an excerpt from my book, “Leaning Into Grief”:
Grief for Memories Not My Own
A difficult chapter to write
“He
sat down in the middle and touched every inch of the disintegrating concrete
and staring into his memories.
Although
he never knew his father, I could see the recognition of what he had been told
and probably memories that flowed through his veins, uniting him with his past.”
Memories That Are Not Ours
The end was looming in and out of our
thoughts.
He needed to visit his beginnings.
And, so, my dad asked if I would take
him
to his birthplace.
His memories brought us to the edge
of his foundation.
Forgotten by many, but never by him.
His search for a crumbling concrete
slab,
took us up and down hills thick with
brambles and rocks that made walking
difficult.
And, treacherous for him and his
heart.
A marker of stacked rocks made him
cry.
He turned toward a thicker portion of
trees
and walked straight to the remnants
of his
Birthplace.
I thought I might have to carry his
frail body,
but the adrenaline surged him
forward.
I watched him touch, sit and revel in
the crumbles,
the rocks and the dirt of his
Birthplace
I was silent
waiting for him.
He pointed, he spoke, he taught,
filling my heart with stories he
shared
for the first time.
His face showed less color, and he
looked back
for the last time.
He gasped and struggled back down the
hill
for the completion of our journey
and the beginning of his next.
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