My Tribute (Thank you, Sis)
Honoring My Sis
Last night was a full moon and I being not aware that it
was. In the middle of being very distraught,
it hit me that it was probably a full moon!
This was one of the many topics my sister-in-law Barbara and I agreed on,
how the moon does affect emotions and the energies surrounding all things.
Besides being a full moon, it was (is) the time for us to
honor a beautiful soul who has transcended this earthly realm. My sis, Barbara Dell Rathjens Wade, my
brother Grover’s wife.
I met Barb at age 11, she and Grover married a year or two
later, but Barb coming into my life changed my life forever. I only had a brother, much older and it was
so exciting to me to have a sister, although much older too.
Barb became much more to me than she knew at the time. All trials and joys of just living life
sometimes kept us farther away from each other than we wanted, we always could
come back to where we started, sisters.
To simply say Barb was my “sis” cannot begin to describe our
relationship! Although my brother and I
had a special bond, there was so much more that Barb and I have had. She navigated me through pre-teen life and
stood by me and directed me through the teen years and as I became an adult and
mother and later just simply “sis” we grew closer and closer in areas that go much
more deeply than sisters.
She was my teacher, not only in school but in life and in
writing and in relationships. She became
my mentor, my fellow writer, my editor (and I was hers!), my spiritual sister. We were each other’s confidants, sharing and
keeping close to our hearts hurts and fears hopes and dreams.
We shared our writings to each other sometimes and to no one
else because we both realized sometimes it was a way for us to simply survive
life. Then other times like during the
80’s we both were published in a women’s poetry magazine “Piecework”, created
and published in Oklahoma City by several well-known women poets of
Oklahoma. Thus, began our camaraderie of
writing!
Encouraging each other, critiquing,
editing, and giving each other lots of love when we were rejected and giving
each other lots of love when we were accepted!
I know, physically, Barb cannot edit for me any longer
(which she was still doing just last month!), but I know in my heart my sis
will continue to be by my side showing me the way and cheering me on!
I will miss our laughing until we cry, I will miss our hours
of contemplating our spirituality, I will miss my sis.
My Sis
My secret keeper.
My comrade of sorrows.
My biggest and best support
And defender,
From childhood into Senior hood.
My friend.
My mentor.
My soul sister.
God was the reason
We found each other.
Taken from Piecework, Spring 1988 written by Barb:
Metamorphosis II
I, for one, have labored hours
Giving birth
to masterpieces,
filing
form rejection slips,
and
searching for my final copies
only to
discover them behind a warm TV.
Seems as if they metamorphose
Into needs
of those who hold them.
In my pain I create outlets
through
great stacks of dirty dishes,
over piles
of musty clothes; then
my
husband turns them over
drawing
plays to win a game.
The baby uses them to wipe
a guilty
shoe that “got in mud”
and when
it dries, the adolescent
forms a
plan “dynamically perfected,”
dowerly
observes its maiden nosedive
at the
tube.
Sometimes…all too seldom…I will find
It lives
again beside my flower
child’s
guitar, taking root and growing
into
some symbolic needs-fulfillment.
Then I know no one on earth can pay me
What my
poem’s worth
---Barbara Dell Wade, Wagoner
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